grief

"All human actions are motivated at their deepest level by one of two emotions - fear or love...Fear is the energy which contracts, closes down, draws in, runs, hides, hoards, and harms. Love is the energy which expands, opens up, sends out, stays, reveals, shares, heals. Fear wraps our bodies in clothing, love allows us to stand naked. Fear clings to and clutches all that we have, love gives all that we have away. Fear holds close, love holds dear. Fear grasps, love lets go. Fear rankles, love soothes. Fear attacks, love amends." ~ Neale Donald Walsch

Today marks the one-year anniversary of my father’s passing, and I know that he would want me to inspire others to live from a place of love, not fear – just as he did for me.


“Grace is a power that comes in and transforms a moment into something better” ~ Caroline Myss

 

Death of a loved one is never easy, whether it’s sudden or to be expected.  When my father passed away after four months on hospice care it was still painful. For eight months, every month,  I flew from London to Los Angeles to be by my father’s side. And with each visit his health deteriorated more and more. Looking back I realise the entire time I was already grieving – grieving for the father that would no longer be there to see me and his grandchildren grow up. But thankfully to all my spiritual practices I was able to remain strong and courageous in my fear of losing my father. Instead I was able to act from a place of love, surrendering to that which I could not control and honour his wishes, his soul’s purpose and continue to find peace and inspiration in his life and legacy. I was able to grow through grief.

What I’ve learned is that grief is a process not an event.  It’s normal, necessary, and physically demanding, affecting your body, heart, social self and spirit. Therefore now more than ever it was (and still is) important to have compassion for yourself, allowing time to heal, by taking time to slow down, turn inward, and embrace your feelings of loss. Through nurturing yourself in journeying through your grief, it is then that we can find meaning in our continued living.

Everyone’s grief journey will be unique, leaving you profoundly affected and deeply changed. It has the power to make you more fully aware and live in the present. While transition requires courage and trust, all change can be a powerful force for growth and transformation. Here are 10 ways to grow through your grief, emotionally and spiritually: